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Ten years of TERROR.......
I have done a lot of driving the last few days on our adventure......15 hours give or take total.....and in between the banter with my kids, there was a good bit of it that allowed for listening to music, and reflection......and we all have chapters that molded us.....and perhaps due to Mercury Retrograde those past things decide to come up and take a front row seat.....a funny aside the music that was finding its way through my speakers, also had a "kicking it back" kinda vi
jperuso
21 hours ago5 min read
Do you believe??
The last couple of days have been so lovely......magic found all around.....and I speak of magic often, because I get to live it often too:).....but part of that fact is that my eyes are open to it now....fully......being present in the moments that surround us.....the ordinary.....that becomes extraordinary is the way......but also chasing experiences that hold inherent magic.....that helps too:) Last night was an experience that held extra magic and will stay with us for aw
jperuso
2 days ago3 min read
Child support........
Child support is such a complicated topic right?? We get infuriated when someone is not paying it to a single mom struggling......and the injustice that lives there.......and I am fortunate that that is NOT my story.......I have received our agreed upon child support every month in this story.......and for that I am deeply appreciative.....I do not think the amount reflects the current cost of living at all, it was decided upon so long ago........but I am grateful for every b
jperuso
3 days ago4 min read
Living In Infamy.....
This is something I ponder more often than people might think I do.....I ponder what it would feel like to live in infamy in a person's memories......a person you once loved......a person that you never wanted to be remembered to, the way they now remember you, in light of your actions.....and I guess it is the empathy piece that gets me.......feeling sorry for the colossal ruins it all sits in......when obviously nothing is one way......all stories have layers.....and the co
jperuso
4 days ago3 min read
You do owe it.........
There are many sayings out there that express that "we don't owe anybody anything," and I disagree......not because our relationships are transactional.......but because we do owe the people in our lives something.....and that is our loyalty, our honesty, our respect.......until they prove otherwise........and even then I think we do........I have remained loyal to the people in my stories to some degree STILL.......having a boundary of disclosure that I feel honors that, one
jperuso
5 days ago3 min read
Let's GO!!!
So next week my plan is to head to Wyoming for my friend's birthday, and it is kind of amazing to think of. I am guessing Wyoming will rank in the most amazing places I have visited once I return.......my friend lives in the true West, and due to flight logistics, it puts me there for a good amount of days to fully experience it all......and I am so excited. Rarely opting to do anything of that on my own,.......but having the stars align just so;-).......Currently I am workin
jperuso
6 days ago3 min read
I STILL wince.........
I think people sometimes see me writing this blog, and sharing my story, and feel it comes easily to me.......never missing a beat.....and that it is all comfortable for me.....and the truth is that most of the time that is true, but is also still gets uncomfortable for me sometimes......I still find myself owning parts of my story, and the things that have happened, or continue to happen, and it causes me to wince......like can that really be true?? And it can also be uncomf
jperuso
7 days ago3 min read
Hey Charlie,......it gets better.......
I had a brief exchange with a man named Charlie yesterday. We connected on dating but he is far away, and it was decided that it was not feasible to begin chatting in a real sense, there was no point.....but he took a moment to become vulnerable, expressing that he came on the dating site to try and navigate his divorce.....going on his first date Tuesday and having it rip the wound open, and he found pain on that date.....and he is most definitely not ready to be dating.....
jperuso
Jul 33 min read
How does it FEEL vs. how it LOOKS...
Most people were shocked when my marriage fell apart, especially the way it did....and part of that was the way it looked to others, or the way others experienced our family......but part of it was my public relations imaging.....and I am not implying or saying I ever lied or any of it in my posts or anywhere.....I made a decision early on to focus on the good, and chase that, and hope that the rest would follow.....thinking if I orchestrated family moments.....spent time cre
jperuso
Jul 23 min read
The pendulum and yikes! ......
When your life abruptly changes in big and bold ways, within a moment's notice it breaks down parts of who you are, and what I have come to find is it normally does so in wonderful and necessary ways......and after my divorce I felt a big shift.....into stuff and places I had not been for quite sometime......learning more about myself......taking time to care about the places of me I had lost along the way, or the places that I had always yearned to let have a voice, or have
jperuso
Jul 13 min read
2,000 what!!??...........
Doing anything for 2,000 times is a lot right?? But we all have done things in our lives countless times.....and some of those experiences are mundane, and others are ones we love.....today I am writing my 2,000th blog......and it is kinda hard to believe.....I started it a few days after my ex left, being deeply encouraged by a few people in my life at the time to do that......feeling called to give my pain room to breathe.....and turns out it was a divinely placed gift in m
jperuso
Jun 305 min read
I SEE you........
I wrote a little ways back about not being seen in a certain place in my life......not accurately anyway......and acceptance is the order of the day, but the other piece of that is that I see them, clearly......without any clouded vision......and I think as I SEE more and more, that vision becomes clearer, putting the events that occurred in a realistic place, a stark one.......certainly shattering all I used to believe.....and I think that is the grief we don't talk about e
jperuso
Jun 294 min read
You gave yourself away.......
One of the greatest gifts I was given on the other side of my marriage was how to spot deception......knowing when somebody is lying or has something to hide.....and deception is on the other side of defensiveness.......period.....if somebody meets you in defensiveness when you express whatever you are concerned about, they have something to hide.....and something that is causing it.....and I am not talking about the defensiveness that comes from other places, because that is
jperuso
Jun 284 min read
I am so glad you are here......
I had my community event at the park last night, knowing that most of the I Got YOU GIRLS had summer conflict plans, and wasn't sure who else may come.....and when I first started my business, I used to attach to the outcomes......feeling like it wasn't a SUCCESS if a bunch of people didn't come, or sign up to whatever I was promoting or putting out there.....and I have learned that isn't true........each time the RIGHT people, the people who need it right at that moment, an
jperuso
Jun 272 min read
Tapestry
The metaphorical meaning is "Figuratively, a tapestry refers to an intricate, interconnected combination of various diverse elements, events, or people that form a single, meaningful picture." I feel as if my life has taken on that hue.......and I am watching as new pieces of my tapestry are snapping into place.......and I have spoken before about my feeling like I walk the fringe in certain places, and always have, and walked in other places that feel like home.......I am a
jperuso
Jun 263 min read
Single to Sovereign #loading
So this entire 'I Got YOU GIRL" wave has been just that......feeling very much like a tidal wave, and as soon as I began to create it, and figure out the moving pieces it has taken on a life of its own and come alive in all of the best ways......And the pieces are coming into reality right before my eyes.......and it is magic.....yesterday another piece entered the party.......I am working on my book, and it is called "Single to Sovereign," and I finished Chapter 4 last night
jperuso
Jun 253 min read
I can finally say this out loud.......
I had one of those clarifying moments yesterday, one that came bearing wisdom and clarity all at once......and when you have been deeply betrayed......lied to, disrespected, emotionally harmed, all of it, your mind wants to numb that truth a little by creating a story.......one that softens it.....so you don't absorb it all at once.....and it is normally surrounding the notion that they "didn't mean to hurt me like that"........"that they really cared about me, but didn't kno
jperuso
Jun 243 min read
I make no apologies.....
I make no apologies for the journey I have chosen these days........I used to deeply wonder how I fit into another person's life......working hard to remain in certain situations......shifting and shaping my world to FIT into another person's world.......caring so fully what somebody else thought, instead of what I think of them?? Spending more time contemplating the comfort of another person than I did me, and now I don't.......for anybody.......and besides the freedom that
jperuso
Jun 233 min read
"I was raised by a single mom"........
I dropped my son's stuff off at the church yesterday in the early afternoon before heading to my dad's house.....my son is staying over at the church for a few days to train to be a counselor at our annual Vacation Bible Camp time.......and he lives for it:) It is his favorite.....so the Pastor and another man were there from my church talking and I wanted to stay and talk to Pastor for a few......I was carrying a lot on my heart, and he is a wise soul, with a gentle spirit h
jperuso
Jun 223 min read
You don't see me.......
There is a dysfunctional undercurrent that lives in my divorce story, one I wish weren't so.....and one that I often marvel at, having a hard time believing that things are the way they are so often.....but one I cannot help......I have tried......and it is something that needs two people to fix, but at its core it is a problem with our communication......and we have had that challenge for many years.......we don't speak the same language......and our lens is completely diffe
jperuso
Jun 214 min read
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After my own challenging divorce, I fell in love with my own life, and became a certified coach to help other women do the same! I also run empowerment workshops for young girls! I am fiercely passionate about all things health, wellness, and empowerment in all its forms! Life is meant to be LIVED! And watching people WIN is my passion! Reach out to find out how I can support your own inner wisdom to do just that ❤️
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