Why are there so many of us????

I don't think a person has to look far to find some content or mention of "healing"......I am not alone in being in my healing era.....not in my own backyard, or within the collective BUT......it got me pondering the WHY.....WHY are there SO many of us!!!!!!!! And here is what I will say......this is not an attack on men.....I love men, I really do:) And know and have known some fine men in this life.....men that do the right thing, love their people fiercely and well, and do not cause wounds that need healing......but it would be inaccurate and misleading to not acknowledge that there are SO MANY women healing from men.......like YIKES.....I would not have a coaching niche, if that weren't so, and certainly wouldn't have met the women I have, and see the reels I do.....listen to the podcasts....read the books, all of it....so that begs the question........WHY???? I do not think, and refuse to believe that these men set out to harm others intentionally......I have come to learn that it stems from their own unhealed places......ones that they haven't healed once and for all, so that they can become safe to women......or I should say safe to vulnerable women......it is no accident either that those kind of men, prey upon or attract women that are wounded in the places they need them to be to tolerate what they are offering.....a healed woman doesn't accept that stuff.....this is something I only recently learned......believing for quite some time.....not all that long ago, that I was more healed after my divorce, in terms of my patterns, than I was.....but I couldn't have been......because of what I was accepting, or actually wasn't accepting.....which is what caused the conflict.....my refusing to go quietly into old patterns.....REFUSING......and that is what caused the conflict that began to grow between us......his wanting me to accept my part of the dance and be quiet, accept feeling his deception and accept the bare minimum of his wildly duplicitous life......so I guess perhaps I was healed in a way I had never been......but had to add the piece where I wasn't putting up with any of it anymore....and unfortunately he triggered my wound from my marriage, one I had thought at one point he had brought healing to......but in the end......exploiting that wound so deeply in every way......and being triggered by him in the way that he was.....and the behavior he was exhibiting was wildly triggering.....and I could have accepted it, and went quiet, like he wanted me to, accepting less for myself to maintain the relationship on his terms.......to just accept it all.....but the part of me that was fighting for healing said NO......not again......and so the unhealed part of me put up with it for as long as I did.....that is true, but he HEALED part of me set me FREE:) And so I cannot be so hard on me and say that I wasn't as healed as I thought......because I proved in real time that I was, and since the end of that elevated my healing to new places, places I have never touched before.......and even though it felt maddening to have walked my way away from the rubble of my divorce, to find myself standing and looking at the same betrayal.....like what? Like walking in what I believed was a road, with miles left behind me, and really it was a circle.........it was the circle I needed to circle back around, to learn the final piece.....to learn to say enough.....to honor my worth above the love I held for another person, my self love being the bigger love........and there are a ton of women out there being damaged by the men they love......or finding me on the other side.....or making content to help others.....and I am guessing the source is a collective awakening......breaking generational curses.....living in another time and place......one where our voice matters......and our stories matter.....one where we are not the damage that found us, but we are what happened after......and while it saddens me that there are so many of us.......it also inspires me.....solidarity......arm in arm.....raising the bar on who and what has access to us, and honoring so deeply that our hearts were designed to give and receive mad love....not endure deep pain......and perhaps as this revolution and evolution of women healing finds its way......and we raise daughters that know their worth, by watching us honor ours, there will not be a need one day for women to heal on this level......so this morning finds me wishing healing for everybody.....men, women, children.....a clarity to find them, where they realize it is ENOUGH.....and that they deserve more than the scraps of a person's life......they deserve respect........honesty.......kindness.....loyalty..........levity......joy......patience......understanding.......love....and so much more......and if you are reading and not getting those things.....or that voice is whispering to you "This is not right"......it isn't right, that voice is right.....get out....no amount of love will change it......and loving harder won't change it......that I know......but loving yourself harder will.............Happy Wednesday:)