Mindset................

Most of all I have learned over the last 9 months really and pretty directly ties into mindset.....and the stories we tell ourselves....IF I had seen myself as a victim.....as a person incapable of healing after the trauma that came to visit me........incapable of being a single mom.......just incapable at all........my story would have been and be much different.......as I said yesterday the power of our thoughts is a big deal....the quality of those thoughts an even bigger deal.......but our mindset in general.....our overall locking into our position in any given story, is equally important, if not even more so.......and challenging those stories we tell ourselves..........on repeat.....all of our lives......we ARE this.....we ARE NOT this......NONE OF THAT IS TRUE..........truth is we can be anything we want to be......or anything we BELIEVE we can........belief is half the battle in setting and crushing mindset......do I believe I can do this thing? What do I believe about myself? Like do I believe I can be a runner.....enjoy running even? I didn't before......now I do and I am :) Do I believe that I can quiet myself enough to gain the benefit of meditation.......didn't before.....now I do.......:) Do I believe I can be a single mom and do all the things I need to do to run the entire household........function outside of a marriage.......didn't before, now I do:) the list can go on and on......but it is that mindset......."the we can do hard things"......secret sauce......seems like such a silly trite saying, but it has CHANGED MY LIFE......saying it quietly in my head when I am in the middle of something that challenges me immensely......it gives me the extra gas in the tank I need to do the next thing......just as my practice of gratitude has.....making what I have more than enough every single day......knowing that mindset is so important and changing our mindset are two very different things.....one is a lot easier than the other.......and I think anytime through this, when my mindset shifted back into the darkness, or in a place I did not think would serve me and my goals......I would gently grab it by the hand and lead it back.......I think all you need is the awareness that you are drifting where you don't want to be......and once you shift that awareness to the space you want to be in.....your mindset joins you.......so managing that voice that lives within us, observing it....... and setting our mindset for whatever it is we desire........it is the key to where we want to go........ not looking back.......owning it all.......putting it on like truth......wearing it like our second skin is what is needed......it definitely needs maintenance and our commitment to maintaining it.......to owning it.......to hanging onto it no matter what......because things come to threaten it every single day......especially in the world we currently live in......but if we view those challenges....as I try to......as exactly what they are......challenges to help us stay strong in our mindset.......help that mindset become like cement.......impermeable to whatever comes our way.......it makes it not seem so daunting......more like those things are helping us, not hurting us......like I said mindset really is everything......:) Have a good weekend everybody:)