Making the most of it all!

Divorced life and sharing kids comes inherently with compromise.....I would much prefer to always have them, and do all of our things every minute.....there is a pang of unfairness that comes to find me sometimes that says that I didn't ask to not see my kids every other weekend when they have to be with their dad, and yet here I am......I truly enjoy my kids and spending time with them....loving having them with me all the time and watching them grow......and so during the holiday season that is a magnified voice.....because it gives me half the time to do the holiday stuff, than I would normally on the weekends, and with this year and the quick holiday, that isn't helping that feeling. So I decided to find that shift in the mindset that helps me live with what I cannot change.....so many times.....and made an intentional plan that this weekend with be all things Christmas, and that we will make the most of it:) We want to do the horse and carriage ride in Milford Friday night.....then breakfast with Santa on Saturday morning and my parents.......then I am making dinner for my parents on Saturday, it is their birthday this week, they both have the same birthday! Cool right?? And then holiday fun Saturday night with them at my place, a fire in the fireplace and a Christmas movie and hot chocolate....and then Sunday the kids have their Christmas pageant at church, and Gabe has a youth group Christmas party....and Mads and I are baking cookies! And it will be amazing....and it will all work out......and I have written many times about the power that lies in our mind.....and more importantly our mindset.....how we harnass that power......the things we think about.....the way we feed it all.....our perspective and story we spin.......and I choose acceptance as often as I can, while acknowledging the feels that arrive before that.....so this weekend is MINE with my kids:) And I plan to make the most out of every second....and next weekend they will be with their dad for part of Christmas Eve for the first time....and I am going to also accept that.....and be grateful that I will have the rest of next weekend to wrap and do all the things I need to to get ready for it all. That has been one of the biggest blessings in my divorced life....having a much easier time wrapping, and doing it all when the kids are not here vs going down to my basement in stolen moments......so yeah mindset it matters....and I am working as hard as I can to use the power found in my mindset to steer my ship! Happy Thursday! :)