Feeling powerless???

The longer I live the more I am shown the darkness that lives inside of people.....their capacity for deception and harm.....and really it is just their own internal pain that is bleeding on others.....pain living in them for reasons, and usually because other people bled on them.....and sometimes they lay it at other's feet.....quite unfairly.....and we are not responsible for the wounds that find us sometimes, but we are responsible for healing the wound.......and what we do with the wound after..,..making sure we don't wound others either......and taking what comes to find us to use for good......and for the greater good......and so when that powerless feeling comes, we can find power in the alchemy......and my banner mantra has been to learn to love ourselves better.....and nurture ourselves better......I treat myself better now than I ever have.....and the benefits have paid off in so many wonderful ways......and learning to take care of myself better has flipped the script. And that is where I go when something comes that I cannot control.....doubling down.....and pouring deep energy into myself to help me find the other side.....And when we become deeply wounded by another human it FEELS really personal....but learning that it just isn't is the way.....I speak of that so often too.....the things people do have to do with them not us......so I was thinking that expanding my coaching to alchemizing people's wounds feels in line with that.....which is what I try and do through my divorce coaching...and have gotten feedback that I have:) but really it is applicable to all sorts of things and wounds.....we all have places that make us feel powerless......and the power is in what happens on the other side....when I shift gears into focusing on my future goals and making my life better on the other side of some pain, it feels like magic, and makes me feel powerful again:) Nothing like it.....because again, another topic that swirls endlessly is surrender.....we cannot change the things that happen to us.....we can't fight them.....we have NO power there.....sometimes they just are.....and the lessons that find us, and what happens next is the amazing part:) So I invite you this morning, if you are reading, and feeling powerless......to shift your focus to you, not what has happened, not the other players in the story, just YOU......what can YOU do today that will make you feel loved and cared for:) And then do that with intention and abandon:) It will change the game! I promise:) And if you feel you need some help in doing that, reach out, let's chat:) Happy Saturday:)