We don't get to choose.......

I saw my astrology friend recently and was talking to her about the planetary vibe out there and feeling its strength the last couple of weeks.....and she agreed.....some eclipses and the moon and other cosmic stuff and this month has been an active one.....I feel like for a little bit now there has been a constant of big interpersonal stuff coming my way fast and furious.......feeling sorta pummeled by it all;-). and this weekend there came some more......and the truth is we don't get to choose.....we don't choose what other people do, or how they feel, or the things they choose, or say to us.....we just don't......and I know that to be true, obviously, but has it stepped forward again.....I am reminded that our real power in this life lies in protecting our peace at all costs, and holding onto what we know to be true and real......and in line with our own moral ground and what is right.....unfortunately knowing that.....and doing it.......doesn't remove the sting of these surprising, sometimes shocking things that step forward....and it is sometimes hard to hold onto ourselves, as we have outside influences pulling at us......heavy prices, of all of it.......all of it.......so I guess the real work is in setting boundaries in our lives......no matter what.......or who......and holding them.......we definitely teach people how to treat us......and what we will allow......and what we will choose to subject ourselves to........and all the rest......and sometimes something happens that goes too far.....and we can find peace with it, but don't need to allow it in our lives......we just don't........it always comes back to my therapist's favorite saying "who do you want to be in this story". how are you showing up in our own life, what do you want from your life.......how do you want to feel? And the biggest reminder is we GET to feel how we want despite our life circumstance.....we get to decide to not let something impact us in a way that robs our peace, and keeps our heart hurting......but it takes effort.....and intention......and some work to climb on the other side.....the weekend overall was a good one.....such gorgeous weather! And I welcome further lessons spinning into my experience.....to help me practice all I have learned, it reminds me......so I release the cosmic funk.......say my prayers......meditate, and center myself and remain true to my path......true to my new life.......hanging onto my peace no matter what......and keep walking on each day......with the knowledge that everything that happens is a part of the story.....even if we don't like it.......and we don't get to choose.......we just don't.........