Just like murder.......

Murder is a tough word oof.....right?? But I mean it for today's blog.....and I am using my voice and platform for all of those quietly suffering......changed forever at the hands of those that they loved......a childhood friend sent me a birthday gift, and it arrived yesterday before my party Saturday.....and she is the one I am fixing to visit in Wyoming this summer:)....and in a series of talks it got me thinking about another childhood friend....whose life has been taken over by the pain of betrayal....her husband betraying her deeply, and in some really profound ways.....and I have said many times that betraying a person who loves you, rattling their sense of security, and trust is one of the worst things you can do to another human.....and I mean that as strongly as I can say it......but I will go a step further and believe I have felt this in the past too.....and liken it to murder......a part of a person dies in the wake of that betrayal at another person's hands.....they are left with an enormous amount of pain and confusion to reconcile....and it colors them for the rest of their lives no matter their healing journey......how they show up in life.....the things they think and feel.....the way they move in the world......how they view others, trust others, love, live all of it.......and I suppose my offenderS can rest easy in the fact that I am sitting here today....not having to live with the blood of the destruction of my life on their hands.....having to do with me, not them.....BUT there are echoes they left in my life and scars that live within me that I will live with forever...and some people do not get off that easy....I have seen women's lives destroyed by what has been done to them in their marriages, and the betrayal that found them......and I suppose all of it is kind of hard to believe this morning.....that they "get away" with such profound destruction......and live their lives beyond their drive by......and I know that sounds all retribution like, and revengey lol:) And I do not mean it that way, I don't.....I have said many times I believe in karma....I have seen it arrive for people when they do things they should not on repeat, and I believe the quality of life reflects the quality of our actions, period.....so I don't seek revenge or retribution for anybody, it is not my job......even though the betrayed needs to live in the consequences of their actions, their attempted murder if you will.....so does the person that did it.....I believe that.....in fact the idea fascinates me so, that I would love to interview people that did the betraying and see it from their side.....like a documentary.....the impact it has on them in the aftermath.....living with the harm they have done.......it would be interesting right? I might do that one day.........I use my voice for healing myself, and for the people that don't feel they have a voice.....still receiving messages often about how my blog "speaks" for others....but the betrayal of another human.....is no small transgression.....it really isn't.....and with all of the betrayal and lies I have walked through I can say that so completely.....and when you do that to another person you maim them in a way that you will never understand, until it is done to you.......and then maybe not even then......I have known people that have had it done to them, and then do it to others, which is mind blowing to me.....so that is not true either I guess......But today I am speaking up for all the women suffering in silence.....feeling their lives shattered, and not sure where to begin.....wondering how they found themselves duped so fully......by the person they loved and trusted the most......for the women that have to keep mothering with their heart broken.....for the women that feel like nobody understands the hurt that found their heart......for the women learning to parent alone.....financially, emotionally, physically, while also mending their babies' broken hearts......on repeat......today is for YOU! I SEE you, I REALLY do.....and you didn't deserve what happened to you, you didn't.....and you will rise from the ashes of your old life I promise.....never give up hope on that......and my passion will continue for being here to help in any way I can! Reach out, there is life beyond what happened......I promise xoxox